A person-centred approach means you are in control of your destiny
Person-centred therapy is a leading approach to counselling, scientifically proven to be effective; that’s why I use it – to help you.
It would help if you were less stressed, and that’s what telling someone (myself) would do for you. The fact that another person would know what you’ve been going through will give you a sense of relief. Furthermore, you would be less defensive because I am not judgmental, which would free you to engage your natural creative abilities. Person-centred therapy is not a problem-focussed therapy but one that naturally empowers you to flourish.
What is Person-Centred Therapy?
Person-Centred therapy is a talking therapy developed by Dr Carl Rogers in the 1950s USA when working with young people.
He realised that not everything he did to help others always worked. And so, he made tapes of many client sessions and had his secretary type transcripts so he could understand what was going on.
The Core Conditions
He found that when the following conditions occurred, it was inevitable that the client would progress through therapy to become freer from the initial issues that brought them to seek help.
- A good connection between yourself and the therapist.
- You are anxious or vulnerable.
- The counsellor is genuinely him or herself.
- You receive empathy from your counsellor.
- The counsellor values you just as you are.
- You perceive the acceptance and valuing.
When the therapy is client-led, your self-esteem should improve, and anxiety and other issues will decrease.
The Precepts Behind Person-Centred Therapy
This popular talking therapy contains the following beliefs.
- You are unique, having your unique personal history and ways of making sense of everything.
- You are the expert on yourself.
- The counsellor’s job is to help you explore the issues you face and understand yourself.
- Use of your “self-actualising tendency” in client-led sessions realigns you with the source of your vitality.
The Benefits of Person-Centred Therapy
Several distinct areas of life should improve if you keep up the sessions.
- The stress between how you’d like to be and how you think you come across to others decreases.
- You can be more understanding toward yourself.
- Your self-awareness can intensify, as can your ability to conduct your life.
- You can better understand your identity – also called your “sense of self.”
- Your relationships should improve as you can easily be yourself with less anxiety.
Does that sound like a “no-brainer” to you?
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Fitting in nicely with client-led therapy is another exercise that I sometimes encourage. If you’re interested in this, I can take you through a mindful breathing exercise. It’s not a religious thing as some people believe, but training yourself to grow more aware of mind and body working together.
Learn to listen to the still, quiet voice within.
I practice this myself before meeting you in sessions and during them because it enables me to become very calm and then I can give you my full attention. Basically, I quieten my mind so that I listen to you at a deep level, taking into account any of my personal experiences I can use to empathise with you in your situation.
I believe mindfulness enhances the quality of presence and therefore the therapy I offer.
Further Aspects of My Approach
My approach is helped by taking a look at some new attitudes.
You are the most amazing version of yourself when you are as much yourself as possible; this means becoming less habitual, less unconscious, and more aware, or “awake”. Once engaged in the process, something powerful in you takes over and you become more confident.
- Spiritual growth means being inspired
- Feel truly alive
- Be in tune with your environment – inner and outer
- Understand yourself in the context of a bigger picture
- Find meaning and purpose
- Make decisions with confidence
- Enjoy greater freedom
After all, trying to fit in with others is like having your wings clipped.
The Meaning of Personal Pain
Maybe you feel terrible right now. If so, I have a unique angle on emotions that should quickly take the sting out of your hurts.
To my way of thinking, pain and suffering are facts of life and have a purpose. Your discomfort is helpful because the things you usually do aren’t effective in your current situation. Hence pain and suffering motivate you to do something extraordinary.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.Kelly Clarkson
Believe it or not, your childhood didn’t prepare you for everything that came your way. So, if you are to resolve your pain, there is a lesson of some sort: something new you need to learn. In overcoming your troubles, you would realise where you went wrong before and thus improve your life.
And, you know what?
The pain persists unless you are willing to learn new things about yourself. Just like in the film “Groundhog Day”, where the hero experiences the same events repeating every day as if it’s always Thursday 2nd February.
Once you become open enough to learn the lessons life is trying to teach you, things start to change for the better.
So, get ready to do something to free yourself from the suffering that holds you back.
The Power of Acceptance
With the support of a counsellor, you can stop fighting so hard to protect yourself and learn the sense there is in letting go of trying to control what you cannot.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference…
Such an attitude can free your energies to focus on something more important: your recovery. At the end of therapy, you will have dealt with your unfinished business and be free to move on. Armed with your new knowledge, you should be able to forge ahead into a brighter future.
During the initial consultation, we establish what you want to achieve and align our expectations of what will happen. We will build a mutual understanding that we are a team, working together on the same goals.
What Happens in The Room
You would usually meet me every week because this is the optimum interval between meetings so you can think about and absorb what you said. However, I recognise that this isn’t for everyone. You might work shift patterns, for example. Alternatively, you might prefer a fortnightly meeting towards the end of therapy.
At the start of each session, we’d discuss anything from the last time that impacted you and then establish what you want to talk about for the remainder of this one. I listen deeply to you, staying with your agenda as it develops.
Putting your thoughts into words where you feel free to talk allows you to work with a flow of ideas that change over time. It should help you become clearer on what you really want and give you confidence in making difficult decisions.
As the end of the hour draws near, I will remind you how much time you have left and summarise the relevant topics. You would continue to reflect on your thoughts in between seeing me.
You could either book your next session at this point or view my calendar and text me when you’ve decided on a time.
How Much Does Counselling Cost?
It is difficult to say how long the process will take, so the total cost is impossible to calculate. However, if you don’t wish to continue suffering while on a long waiting list, doesn’t it seem like an excellent option to see someone like myself in private practice? If this is a stumbling block for you, talk to me about it.
Sessions last up to one hour, or 1000 words if by email. Maximum-length 90-minute sessions are provided if requested.
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Payment options include cash, direct bank payment, bank card and PayPal.
Concessionary rates are available on request for retirees, students, NHS staff and holders of a Blue Light Card.
So, there you have it. My approach is a combination of the most popular type of talking therapy, with mindfulness and consideration of some ideas about what makes your therapy effective.