This FAQ page contains answers to the most commonly-asked questions around counselling.

Created by potrace 1.16, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2019

If your question is not answered here, then why not contact me and I will answer you directly?

What can I expect in counselling?

It can feel strange if you have not been for counselling before. It hinges on how well we get on - how comfortable you feel talking to me.

The counselling relationship is unusual in that you get to talk about whatever you like, and my main role is to listen.

I will listen to you without being judgemental or offering advice. I will encourage you to talk openly to explore those things you find difficult to talk about with others by offering a non-threatening environment where you feel free to explore difficult situations you encounter in your daily life.

Once we have started working together I may also gently challenge you by asking open questions or reflecting back to you what you have said.

How does counselling work?

It is important to your recovery that you feel free to reveal what's been troubling you. I will try to put you at ease to help you do this.

Most people feel very relieved to find a situation where they feel totally heard and understood. It really is quite something to find someone who will just listen, but it needs to be experienced to feel how profound it is.

The exploration of your thoughts and feelings at a deep level challenges you to think for yourself so that you might see more clearly, gain the understanding you need to outgrow the problems you previously found overwhelming and teach yourself by experience how to use the natural abilities you have to overcome future problems.

How many sessions will I need?

You are a unique person and the variation in human experience is vast. However, I believe that you yourself will know when you have achieved your aim and when you are ready to leave therapy.

Most people notice a difference in how they feel after a few sessions. Where that's not the case, we review the way we work together and adjust it so that it becomes more effective.

What about payment?

I accept payment by BACS, bank cards and PayPal. Banking apps and PayPal make this part of the process fast and easy so you can concentrate on getting well.

I ask for payment in advance because I have to pay room hire in advance too but my charges are very reasonable and concessions are available for students or if you are out of work.

Where is the practice located?

For face-to-face work I have the use of some therapy rooms close to the M1 near Rotherham.

They are quiet, comfortable, private and there is no sign on the building to show that it is being used for counselling.

I provide the full address when arranging a counselling session with you.

There is a room and a lavatory on the ground-floor, if you have mobility problems. If someone is coming with you, please note that there is no waiting room.

What is online therapy?

Using internet technology for communication has become an everyday thing and so you can have therapy online or by telephone.

Whether you use video, voice/telephone, instant-messaging or email it will be myself on the other end of the line or computer - facilitating your therapeutic journey to a better quality of life.

Apart from email, appointments are still made for an agreed date and time. Sessions last 50 minutes and we still 'meet', encountering each other via whatever medium we agree to use. Email counselling involves composing and sending an email of (up to) an agreed number of words, to which I reply in a conversational style.