Depression can affect people of all ages, each person has their own unique set of symptoms and it is often linked to low self-esteem and anxiety. Relationships, work and physical health are all affected. In the worst cases, sufferers are unable to maintain relationships, hold down a job, look after themselves properly and life can lose all joyfulness.

Psychological Symptoms

Depression affects how we are on a daily basis. You may experience some of the following:

  • Feeling worthless, powerless, tearful, irritable, unmotivated, and often worried.
  • You feel isolated because you think nobody would want to know your troubles, so try to hide your feelings.
  • Thinking about the past too much.
  • Loss of interest in doing the things you used to like to do.
  • Having self-destructive thoughts.
  • Feeling anxious because your expectations of the future are based on your memories of the past.
  • Not wanting to get out of bed in the morning.

Symptoms others might notice

As depression can creep up on you, it might be down to others to say something.

  • Your tone of voice may change and you sound sad.
  • You might speak more slowly and move about less energetically.
  • You binge-eat or don't eat enough.
  • Even worse - you might turn to drugs or alcohol.
  • You have no energy and little appetite.
  • You don't take care of your appearance like you used to.
  • You lose touch because you don't go out or make the effort to keep in touch with people close to you.

Social life

How we are on the inside affects how we relate to others on the outside.

  • Failing at work.
  • Avoiding people and places where you are likely to meet them.
  • Losing interest in hobbies.
  • Difficulties relating to those close to you, like 'pushing people away from you'.

Degrees of depression

There are varying degrees of severity, and you might have good and bad days.

  • Mild - it has some effect on daily life but you can still function.
  • Moderate - has quite a bad impact.
  • Severe - extremely difficult to get through each day and you might think the world is going mad.

Depression affects each person in different ways, but what a Counsellor can do to help you recover?


It might seem strange to those who think they need to be 'fixed', but in the accepting environment of non-judgemental counselling where you are free to talk about what is important to you, you would soon begin to feel changes in your daily life: for example, in the way you see yourself.

As you know everything about the life you have lived so far, I would not try to interpret what you say, but would help you challenge ideas and re-order priorities that held you back from being able to conduct your life.

My aim is for you to learn how to recover from this and any future setbacks so that you can stay clear of ever feeling stuck in a rut again!