What is the counselling process? A Therapist's Perspective

Counselling is all about making changes in the way we see ourselves and the world. It's not easy, so there is some focus on the nature of the changes you work towards in the hope that steady progress is maintained. It's better to go slow rather than lose track of your goals so that you reach them.

It is my view that life seems to call all of us to grow by challenging us personally, and that can feel quite hard at times. The free consultation that I offer is an opportunity for us to see if we are a "good fit" because we need to be able to work together as a team on whatever ails you.

Seeing the patterns in life helps you make sense of everything.

Seeing the patterns in life helps you make sense of everything.

I have a strong conviction that much of my personal history has been about realising I had talents I didn't know about. One of the main things about being a counsellor is being able to listen deeply to others, and I found that ability was a gift I had.

Person Centred Counselling

Person Centred, or "Client Led" counselling hinges on the development of a genuine encounter within a therapeutic relationship of unconditional acceptance and empathic understanding.

There is an emphasis on my accompanying you on your journey through therapy, not judging, but accepting and trying to understand you as another genuine human person. During the course of your counselling, the relationship you have with yourself ought to improve and you will grow more confident. Remembering all that you are is the same as becoming whole, which happens along with an increase in self-awareness that grows via deep contact with the therapist.

Some who come to counselling have struggled alone up to that point because they had not found anybody they could talk to in confidentiality. Working with me provides the opportunity you might be looking for because whatever theoretical model I use, the way that I approach the counselling is to allow a relationship of trust to grow between us. This works well because you would feel less nervous about disclosing whatever you are trying to hide from others.

I hear a lot of people saying things like "I feel better now I have found someone I can talk to", so it must be a relief when a person realises they have found that "safe space" where they can talk freely and can trust in the process.

An Integrative Framework

The counselling I provide is "integrative". This means that I have more than one way of seeing your experience of the world, and "everything is relevant".

Take, for example:

  • What matters most to you
  • The way you and your situation interact with each other
  • Your relationships with others
  • The relationship you have with yourself

A holistic perspective integrates all of your experience to provide a bigger picture: one that is accurate and clear.

I believe that with my support we will be able to discover your hidden talents: those things that you have forgotten about, which will help you overcome uncomfortable feelings.

Feelgood image - Free as a Bird

"They will soar high on wings like eagles.
They will run and not grow weary.
They will walk and not faint."

(Isaiah 40:31)

My ultimate hope is that you will learn enough in working with me to steer clear of troubles after leaving therapy.