Counselling for Anxiety & Relationship Problems

I provide a face-to-face counselling service for individuals in South Yorkshire. I work from Wath upon Dearne, Rotherham and Hoyland, near Barnsley. I also provide online counselling UK-wide, via video, instant-messaging and email. My professional experience has led me to specialise in anxiety and relationship problems.

"I'm in a hurry!"

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"I'm not sure that I'd feel comfortable talking to you."

Watch this video and see if it helps.

"I feel so worried about my mental health right now."

Try reading on and see if learning more about anxiety helps you feel any different.

Some Anxiety is Natural

Generally speaking, anxiety and relationship problems go together.

For example, if you and your partner frequently fall out, you will almost certainly find yourself constantly worrying, overthinking, having disturbed sleep, being restless and maybe even having panic attacks.

Maybe you are being bullied at work, but trying to stand up for yourself means there is a threat to your employment, income, home and life.

On the other hand, it could be your own behaviour that others complain about and you are worried about losing your marriage or the way you have difficulties in other important relationships.

Whilst living in constant anxiety is very challenging, it is actually a biological means of self-protection: it's the "fight-or-flight" reaction. Another reaction is to freeze.

It's usual to experience anxiety temporarily, but if it has become fixed, then you feel awful. And do you know why that is?

Since we are wired to live freely,
being trapped in anxiety is unnatural.

Have a think about what you just read. Did anything in particular stand out for you?

If so, perhaps there would be a way in which I could be of help.

Ask me how I could help you when you feel ready.

"I'm not sure it's anxiety I have."

Read this page to check if you have the symptoms of anxiety.

Other Associated Issues

It's rarely just one type of issue you're facing, but several. For example: thinking about the past is linked to depression, and doubting yourself is a symptom of low self-esteem. Not being yourself makes you stressed out because you want things to change, and this can lead to anger issues as you are primed to react quickly.

Men are especially prone to not talking, having to stay strong whatever the circumstances. Being strong and yet sensitive to others is particularly hard. So, here's a page about men's issues.

I am saying that I can help you to live freely through a journey of self-discovery. After all, you don't want to stay where you are do you?

I was stuck once but got myself free and I know the way out!

Contact me and get living again.

Here's a tip: a sense of self is always helpful in dissipating anxiety.

See what one client said he learned:

Counselling helps you find who you are

"I felt I could understand more about who I am and what my future expectations are."

ML - 30th March 2018

That's right! - He found a clearer sense of self and sense of direction.

And you could too!

OK, So What is Counselling?

The BACP say that

"Counselling and psychotherapy are umbrella terms that cover a range of talking therapies. They are delivered by trained practitioners who work with people over a short or long term to help them bring about effective change and/or enhance their wellbeing"

BACP (2017) - Choosing a Counsellor or Psychotherapist

I would add extra detail to that. I would define it as a professional relationship where you meet for an hour on a regular basis and tell a trusted person what is bothering you in confidentiality. They help you explore your thoughts and feelings in an atmosphere of warmth and empathy with the aim of you having better: self-understanding, self-compassion, relationships and life.

That might sound like a good thing to you, however, generally speaking, it takes courage to take the steps you are taking.

"One in four adults and one in 10 children experience mental illness, and many more of us know and care for people who do."

NHS England - Mental Health

Why You Stay Stuck

Personally speaking, I believe that the reason there is so much suffering is that our society is quite judgemental and so you tend to hide your problems from everyone as a way of protecting yourself. That isn't actually helping change things though, and perhaps you are reading this because you recognise you need to try talking to someone.

Would Talking to a Counsellor Help?

Watch this short video and get an idea of what it might be like talking with me whilst I try to explain more about the counselling process.

Most people find talking to me helpful.

  • I don't judge because I know from personal experience that anyone can fall on hard times
  • I avoid giving advice - I believe you are the expert on you
  • Sharing your burden makes you feel lighter
  • I uphold your right to have therapy without others knowing as a matter of privacy
  • I believe that you are unique - just as is everyone else. I believe that you have the right to be heard and understood and I will listen intently to you.

A Holistic Approach

It's essential for good counselling if you can talk freely about all aspects of your life, but this is not easy if you fear being judged because of your beliefs.

Let me try to reassure you. My Christian faith, which demands my respect for you and others, means you can freely explore the part your own beliefs play in your path to healing.

Michael Underwood MBACP - Counsellor in Rotherham

If we can build a relationship of trust, that should offer a secure starting point for further exploration.

Michael Underwood MBACP

Whoever you are, whatever troubles you have, my aim is to enable you to make sense of everything and live the life you are looking for.

I am qualified to deliver online therapy as well as face-to-face sessions.

Find out more about my qualifications and training.

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Free Consultation

If you would like to see what it feels like talking to me, I offer a free 30 minute consultation.

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Covid-19 Update (1st June 2021)

Online therapy is of course Covid safe, since we would not have to meet in person. However, I am now also taking bookings for face-to-face sessions.

There are some safety precautions in place and you are welcome to ask about these when getting in touch.

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