Counselling for Anxiety & Relationship Problems

I provide a face-to-face counselling service for individuals in South Yorkshire. I work from Wath upon Dearne, Rotherham and Hoyland, near Barnsley. I also provide online counselling UK-wide, via video, instant-messaging and email.

Private Therapy Room

My professional experience of helping people overcome workplace stress in the NHS and counselling in a domestic abuse charity has led me to specialise in certain issues.

Generally speaking, anxiety and relationship problems go together.

For example, if you and your partner frequently fall out or there are affairs, you will almost certainly find yourself constantly worrying, overthinking, having disturbed sleep, being restless and even having panic attacks.

Maybe you are being bullied at work, but trying to stand up for yourself means there is a threat to your employment, income, home and life.

On the other hand, it could be your own behaviour that others complain about and you are worried about losing your marriage or the way you have difficulties in other important relationships.

Anxiety is Natural

Whilst making you feel absolutely horrible both mentally and physically, anxiety is a biological means of getting ready for action: it's the "fight-or-flight" reaction. Another response is to freeze, but the point is, anxiety is a call-to-action for you to do something extra-ordinary.

Other issues get mixed in too. For example: thinking about the past can lead to depression, and the memory of how you behaved in the past can lead to low self-esteem. Not being yourself makes it easier to have anger issues because you are stressed out and ready to react.

If you are reading this however, it's fair to say that you are looking at having counselling. If this is new to you, it might help to know that the counselling process is known for bringing clarity to your situation. In other words, it empowers you to know yourself.

Counselling helps you find who you are

"I felt I could understand more about who I am and what my future expectations are."

ML - 30th March 2018

OK, So What is Counselling?

In case you have never talked to someone like myself before, here is a definition. The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy say that

"Counselling and psychotherapy are umbrella terms that cover a range of talking therapies. They are delivered by trained practitioners who work with people over a short or long term to help them bring about effective change and/or enhance their wellbeing"

BACP (2017) - Choosing a Counsellor or Psychotherapist

Sounds like a good thing to do to me. However, generally speaking, it takes courage to take the steps you are taking.

"One in four adults and one in 10 children experience mental illness, and many more of us know and care for people who do."

NHS England - Mental Health

Personally speaking, I believe that one reason this is so high is that our society is rather judgemental and so it feels safer to hide your problems from everyone. That isn't actually helping change things though, and perhaps you recognise you need to try talking to someone.

Does Talking to a Counsellor Help?

Most people find talking to a counsellor helpful.

  • I don't judge because I know from personal experience that anyone can fall on hard times
  • I avoid giving advice - I believe you are the expert on you
  • Sharing your burden should make you feel lighter - it is part of the service you pay for
  • I do not know your friends and family and so there is no come-back on your private life

I believe that you are unique - just as is everyone else. I believe that you have the right to be heard and understood and I will listen intently to you.

Michael Underwood MBACP - Counsellor for Anxiety and Relationship Problems in Rotherham

If we can build a relationship of trust, it is likely that you will feel safe enough to share your troubles - a starting point for further exploration.

Michael Underwood MBACP

Whoever you are, whatever troubles you have, my aim is to enable you to make sense of everything and see yourself and the world in a different light.

I am a qualified counsellor - not just in face-to-face work but online therapy too.
See my qualifications.

Free Consultation

If you would like to see what talking to a counsellor feels like, or just see if you think we can get on, please get in touch. I can offer a free 30 minute's consultation - just phone, text or email me.

Covid-Safe Online Therapy

Online counselling is one of my qualifications and of course, it's Covid-safe, since we would not have to meet in person. You could work through your issues using a variety of different media: video, telephone, instant messaging or email.

Thanks for reading -
now it's
over to
you.