Counselling for Anxiety & Relationship Problems

I provide a face-to-face counselling service for individuals in South Yorkshire. I work from Wath upon Dearne, Rotherham and Hoyland, near Barnsley. I also provide online counselling UK-wide, via video, instant-messaging and email.

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My professional experience of helping people overcome workplace stress in the NHS and counselling in a domestic abuse charity has led me to specialise in anxiety-related issues.

Generally speaking, anxiety and relationship problems go together.

For example, if you and your partner frequently fall out, you will almost certainly find yourself constantly worrying, overthinking, having disturbed sleep, being restless and even having panic attacks.

Maybe you are being bullied at work, but trying to stand up for yourself means there is a threat to your employment, income, home and life.

On the other hand, it could be your own behaviour that others complain about and you are worried about losing your marriage or the way you have difficulties in other important relationships.

Some Anxiety is Natural

Whilst living in constant anxiety may be so very challenging, it is usually a biological means of self-protection: it's the "fight-or-flight" reaction. Another reaction is to freeze.

It's usual to experience anxiety temporarily, but if it has become fixed, then that is unnatural and unhealthy.

Check if you have the symptoms of anxiety.

Other issues get mixed in too. For example: thinking about the past is linked to depression, and doubting yourself is a symptom of low self-esteem. Not being yourself makes you stressed-out because you want things to change, and this can lead to anger issues as you are primed to react quickly.

I say that counselling can help you to live freely through a journey of self-discovery.

Counselling helps you find who you are

"I felt I could understand more about who I am and what my future expectations are."

ML - 30th March 2018

OK, So What is Counselling?

In case you have never talked to someone like myself before, here is a definition. The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy say that

"Counselling and psychotherapy are umbrella terms that cover a range of talking therapies. They are delivered by trained practitioners who work with people over a short or long term to help them bring about effective change and/or enhance their wellbeing"

BACP (2017) - Choosing a Counsellor or Psychotherapist

My Definition of Counselling

I would add more detail to that. I would define counselling as a professional relationship where you talk for an hour on a regular basis to a trusted person in confidentiality. They let you talk about whatever is on your mind, supporting you to explore your thoughts and feelings so you can understand yourself, develop self-compassion, improve relationships and enjoy a better life.

That might sound like a good thing to you, however, generally speaking, it takes courage to take the steps you are taking.

"One in four adults and one in 10 children experience mental illness, and many more of us know and care for people who do."

NHS England - Mental Health

Why People Stay Stuck

Personally speaking, I believe that the reason there are so many people suffering is that our society is quite judgemental and so you tend to hide your problems from everyone as a way of protecting yourself. That isn't actually helping change things though, and perhaps you recognise you need to try talking to someone.

Would Talking to a Counsellor Help?

Most people find talking to a counsellor helpful.

  • I don't judge because I know from personal experience that anyone can fall on hard times
  • I avoid giving advice - I believe you are the expert on you
  • Sharing your burden should make you feel lighter - it is part of the service you pay for
  • I protect your right to have therapy without others knowing you're seeing me as a matter of course

I believe that you are unique - just as is everyone else. I believe that you have the right to be heard and understood and I will listen intently to you.

Michael Underwood MBACP - Counsellor for Anxiety and Relationship Problems in Rotherham

If we can build a relationship of trust, that should offer a secure starting point for further exploration.

Michael Underwood MBACP

Whoever you are, whatever troubles you have, my aim is to enable you to make sense of everything and see yourself and the world in a different light.

I am a qualified counsellor - not just in face-to-face work but online therapy too.

If you wish to find out more about me, read my story, view my qualifications or watch this short video I made.

Free Consultation

If you would like to see what talking to a counsellor feels like, or just see if you think we can get on, please get in touch. I can offer a free 30 minute's consultation - just phone, text or email me.

Covid-19 Announcement

Online counselling is one of my qualifications and of course, it's Covid-safe, since we would not have to meet in person. However, I am now taking bookings for face-to-face sessions.

There are some safety precautions in place. Do ask about these when getting in touch.

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